I’m back in the saddle so to speak. I still have a gimpy arm, but I’m managing pretty darn well and seem to have had the good fortune of having had a lot less pain than most people with this experience. It’s still a process that will take a few more months to have a “normal” arm. The rest of me will likely never get there.
In my down time I received so many beautiful notes from many of you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart and I mean that with all humility and sincerity. Your notes and calls lead me tot the realization that I will likely never retire. I am so blessed to have a job I love so much. Thank you. Thank you.
As many of you know, I keep a write board on my waiting room wall. The current quote on that board is “If you aren’t willing to change, don’t expect your life to”.
So often, we think about changes we want to have occur in our life but unfortunately we don’t connect the realization that we are the ones who actually have to take step by step actions in order to make those changes occur. Even if we do get that far, many of us would like to take the action once or twice, for maybe a week, but certainly not from here on out!. We want to diet for a day and lose 50 lbs. Quit drinking for a month and be “over it”. Or, we want to send out a resume and have a great job land in our lap. We might date the same type of person over and over, and believe he or she will change “this time”.
Last week I heard myself saying to someone “The illusion of comfort you feel right now is preferable to the pain you will feel if you make a change.
Make no mistake. Change often brings discomfort if not all out pain. Often, our perception and anticipation of that pain is magnified in our minds and we believe we can avoid it by not embarking on that change. We make a mental pro and con list in our head and determine that the comfort we get in this moment (pre change) is not so bad. Heck, it might even feel good IN THIS MOMENT. But we miss that it may be costing us a hefty price by continuing the status quo.
Continuing to spend what we can’t afford because obtaining an item makes us happy, doesn’t take into account the pain when the credit card comes and we can’t pay the balance. But in the moment of putting those goods in our shopping cart, we maintain the illusion of our current comfort and don’t want to feel the pain of not going home with our goodies.
Continuing a relationship that is not good for us may feel preferable to the thought of ending and having hurt feelings to consider. But what about the pain of missing out on a relationship that might be better for us?
I notice this within myself when I want to avoid my “painful” therapy exercises on my arm at a time that I feel completely comfortable doing something else. But not doing them means my arm fails to strengthen and the process goes on longer than it needs to creating far more pain.
Pain is part of living. The sooner we come to terms with that and stop trying to run, hide or dress it up in lies for ourselves, the sooner we become able to stay in the moment of our present lives.