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My blog today begins with a message from my 4 year old self. I’m cranky, I’m disappointed, the world is unfair. I did not get my way and I’m not happy about it. I have been active in my local school board election, supporting a long shot candidate and she/we lost. People are stupid. The world is stupid. I’m going to move to a country that I can’t pronounce the name of and live happily ever after, surviving on natural berries and weaving my own clothing out of the fibers I pick up in the wild.
Fast forward the time machine to my adult self. Yep, I’m still disappointed. I don’t even think angry as much as I’m just plain disappointed. The election loss was not about a personal candidate, but about an agenda and a philosophy chosen, which is different than the one for my family. But not everyone thinks the way I do. Namely about 17000 people who voted differently. I can take a hint.
So now what? I can try again next time, toilet paper the house of the winners, or move to another district, country, universe. Or, I can live today just like I did yesterday. My world hasn’t changed. I still have the same goals, hopes and aspirations today that I did yesterday. It’s merely that one of the paths I had hoped to travel down has a “no entrance” sign posted in front of it right now. I think it also has a “no loitering” sign as well, which means, time to let go and move on.
But this post isn’t really about an election- or my mood as much as it is about a way to look at how does one let go and go with a plan b? I am reminded of one of my very favorite books of all time “Life is Good” by George Dawson. If you haven’t read it, consider doing so. George is a black man, grandson of sharecroppers. As a young boy he witnesses a tremendous injustice and his reaction is similar to the one I started this blog with (although a bit more mature). But his father instills a wisdom in his son that remains with him throughout his lifetime. “Life is good and it’s only going to get better”. The book is a telling of events throughout George’s life that, illustrate his father’s message into a reality.
So today, when I get cranky, I have a list of things I have to work at remembering:
-I have a family I love dearly
-I live in safety, I have a roof over my head, a job I love, food in my belly, friends that are loyal and giving
-I am healthy as is my family
-my life is good… and it’s only going to get better.
-and even this- I moved to this place largely for these schools. Agree with them or don’t agree with them, they continue to provide an education for my children. But it is not the only education my children will receive. I always have the option, as do they to supplement or change that course. More importantly, my children’s education is one tiny piece of my world- and their K-12 years are actually only a small piece of THEIR world- Put it in perspective- it doesn’t deserve this much energy or focus. Look at the bigger picture.
So, this is my plan B: working on staying in my adult voice, broadening the perspective, and most of all switching to a posture of gratitude and connection to something larger than me as being in charge of the world. On that note- I hope you have the same kind of wonderful day, that I’m going to work towards having.