You’ll find a hodge podge of goodies on these pages. Check back from time to time in hopes that I’ve mixed things up a bit. Please be sure to check out the other pages under the “support” tab on the main menu.
Quotes I find useful and hope you will as well:
One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time- Andrew Gide
Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine ourselves by the meanings we give to situations.
Pain is certain, suffering is optional- Buddha
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Mary Ann Williamson
That Whispers All Day Long,
“I Feel That This Is Right For Me,
I Know That This Is Wrong.”
No Teacher, Preacher, Parent, Friend
Or Wise Man Can Decide
What’s Right For You- Just Listen To
The Voice That Speaks Inside.”
Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing it is stupid. – Albert Einstein
Books I recommend: (clicking on the book image will take you to Amazon)
On perseverance and the amazing human spirit:
Getting the Love you Want- Harville Hendrix: an easy to understand look at the way our family of origin “baggage” seeps into our choices of mates. I am only recommending book one- not the ones that came afterward.
Managing from the Heart-Bracey et. al. : I use this as a “text book” when working with couples. There are five key principles that provide a solid and safe framework for partners to learn better methods of communicating with each other.
Leadership and Self Deception-The Arbinger Inst.- Uses a cheesy story to illustrate a very important concept which is how we all fall in to a rut of thinking things are true the way we see them. It helps the reader begin to consider the other person’s perspective as equally valid. It sounds so common sense, that most of us would think we already do this, but after reading the book (which I recommend one do once a year) it’s more clear to see how easily it is to deceive ourselves.
Do you just need to Laugh?
Read David Sedaris- anything written 2008 or before.- A bit raunchy at times- but a funny autobiographical look at a family that he didn’t really seem to fit in and plenty of self-deprecating humor as well.
Look me in the Eye: John Elder Robison- Robinson was diagnosed later in life with AS and speaks clearly about it’s impact on him both in terms of pros and cons. It is a good read to understand the differences from those who do not have AS without negative connotation.
Journal of Best Practices: David Finch- One man’s journey to chronical his transformation from pre-diagnosis to a state of fairly clear understanding of his neurological differences and their implications and effects on the woman he loves. I think wives living with someone with Asperger’s appreciate this book considerably more than AS men will.
Books that will always be favorites of mine:
Anne Lamott: Bird by Bird
Ann Morrow Lindberg: Gifts from the Sea
Lauren Slater: Lying
George Dawson: Life is So Good
Hope Edelman: Motherless Daughters
Lucy Greely: Autobiography of a Face
Movies worth Watching:
Finding Nemo- Yes its Disney- and yes Adults, parents should watch it- It’s a great movie about parent’s having to let go.
The Spanish Prisoner
The Way Way Back
Lars and the Real Girl
Home for the Holidays
Next Stop Wonderland